Mark.. man I miss Cali!!! Lived there (should I say stationed there) for 4 years. I LOVE SAN DIEGO!! Costs too damn much though.
I'd be a little concerned about the "hacking" hopefully they are not that good. It's very easy to "spoof" email and IP addresses, so be careful there.
Just an aside from my sitch, I worked amicably with my W.. she did not view it as amicable though. Amicable to them is "I want it all so I can be safe in my surroundings" My W never thought about the fact that while she was getting what she needed for the girls, she was taking from the girls here. That's the Alien part of it.
My advice is to be VERY well prepared. My folks are going to be giving me a book called "The bottom line". Supposedly it talks about all the financial aspects of Divorce. 401K's, taxes etc.
My W thinks she has me over a barrel, but in reality, she will be in some deep water. She will have to pay her own car insurance, health insurance, etc, etc.
Just worked it up with my L that our tax return (we will file jointly this year) will be applied to "marital debt".. I'm sure she's thinking she's getting a fat check to go blow.. Sorry Hon..
Even funnier.. her mom does our taxes and ALWAYS works the numbers. SO.. MIL will cook the numbers to max our return only to be used for bills. HA HA!!
That's the line between amicable and self preservation. It helps us both out, but she won't see it that way. Bottom line will be less for her to be accountable for. All she will see is me being mean and nasty.
If they don't agree.. money will sit earning interest till they pull their heads out of their rears. Works for me!!
