What does the group think?

[RedHeadWife]

What would happen if you were *up front about it* though?

Are you thinking that you want a D, but don't want to do it until you have some $$ put aside that's strictly yours?

My H was a bit sneaky prior to the bomb and I was CLUELESS when he suggested that I start depositing my pay check into the account we have here locally which we had stopped doing. We had started direct depositing my check into our joint "main" account. However, of course, looking back, he was suggesting that "getting ready" for us to start splitting things up such as bills, etc. after the D, which at the time he suggested we start doing this again, was planning to do.