It definitely takes some time.. you definitely need to get out and do some stuff for you. Whatever interests you. The key is to keep yourself busy so you don't think about W and OM.
As for the dreams.. I've had some of those as well. They say dreams are a product of your subconscious.. in other words, you are thinking about them too much.
I'm in the same boat.
One thing I've figured out though.. I can't change what she thinks, feels, says, does.
I can however change those things about me. Think about that.. only you can make yourself happy.
They should come out with a patch that helps us "give up" our WAS's.
