CVA - Moving On

[SirPrizeMe]

CVA, down boy!

We all have bad days. I just had a major venting session here. I think the feeling has passed now, though.

I hope it has passed for you, too.

Think, man! Think! Think first, then act.

What is it that you want? You want a hot conflict? Want to fight your way through to divorce? Want to alienate your spouse? Then I know the path. Take control. Start issuing demands. Be vindictive. Let your hurt show through by being petty and argumentative. Works like a charm, every time.

On the other hand if you want to give your M a fighting chance, this is the time to do it. This is the time when things are going to get difficult for the one you love. Not through your choice, because I know you wouldn't wish difficulty for the one you love. but difficulty will come. She'll be worried. She'll suffer. This is your chance to support her! Your chance to be there for her. Yes, you've been treated unfairly. You're getting a raw deal. The totally weird part is, she is likely getting a raw deal, too. Now is your chance to be firm, fair, and loving. To let go of the hurt, and let her feel the honest repercussions of her actions. Lovingly. To support her and be there for her. This is your chance. This is the time. You are the man.

You can do this!

[Not Much Left]

I'm so tired but thanks Sunny, sweet girl and Sir. Awesome words of advice. It's like I should have all this on a loop on my IPOD when I talk to her instead fo Rob Thomas or Nickleback!

C

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

I find that turning off the iPod and just thinking, just letting this stuff run its loops in my brain, can be incredibly powerful. Just turn off the noise and listen to your heart; it may tell you things you're surprised to hear.

Take some time; it's yours to take. Time is your friend right now. There's so much to gain and so much to lose; be clear with yourself. No need to listen to the pusher.

(((CVA))), take care.

[Heimlich]

Two things:
1. I still don't get your Rob Thomas thing, but Nickelback, I'm thinking of making some purchases there.
2. I think what everyone is trying to say is to show your W the guy that we all get to see here, and not your pusher side, which seems to be what's stifling/scaring/making your W want to run.

BD

[Not Much Left]

Oh gosh
Thanks Puddle
That was nice
C

[Not Much Left]

H
Thanks I try to show her the CVA u guys read about here, just hasn't really registered with her and as Sunny tells me we are locked in this ritualistic dance where we react to each other and have to figure out how to break out of that. I have done a lot of that, just not completely...apparently. In the end, it probably won't save the M but I will be better for it so I will keep trying.

Have u listened to "Exile", the new Matchbox 20 cd?

C

[Heimlich]

Hehe, "ritualistic dance." I have this image of you and W dancing around a bonfire with masks on. Sounds like a good description. I know that my W still expects me to react to things like I used to. Though it does seem like she's finally thawing a little bit. Regardless, patience, which I'm finally learning, is key.

Nope, been listening to country for background mostly, so haven't heard the latest Matchbox 20. I do have the first CD and quite like it. I just like to bust your balls for your Rob Thomas man crush.

BD

[Not Much Left]

True, good one!

[Not Much Left]

Ooohh, more trivial crap

Def Leppard .... Love Bites...just came on the radio, reachin way back when I had long (and way more hair) but pretty much sums it up!!!

C

[Heimlich]

Dunno about you, but I'm ready for someone to "Pour some sugar on Me"