It is so hard to let go but, it is something you need to do for you and for them. For you, you need to GAL and find peace that you can be an individual without depending on your R for that. You will be much happier when you get to this point but, you do have to work for it and you may need to fake it till you make it. For you H's, your GAL activities will help them to work on themseves and to see that you are not needy ,whiney, and dependent on them for your happiness. They will look at you and think what im'e i giving up here and they will be scared about really losing you. Right now they think they have the best of both worlds because you two are fighting OW for them and they love the attention thus not having to make any decisions.
I am not tellling you that you will get your R's back but you will be able to live and be happy on your own with or without them
(((((( SO2 )))))) (((((( BS )))))))
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
