sandi2:

If he would even make out a list for me and what he would like for me to do or not to do......I would. I've tried to get him to do this before. As I've already told the story, and he would just say all he wanted was more sex. That would be a complete turn-off and disappointment to me. I was willing to work and to change whatever he wanted, but all he would say was...."just more sex". It made me feel as though he didn't put a second's worth of thought into any list at all. So, I haven't tried it anymore.

He told you his #1 need, it was obvious. So why did you dismiss this?