I'm telling her some/all of this as soon as I get my 'ducks in a row', next couple days, need to get legal advice, etc..:
1) 'my family is my life and everything else comes second.' 2) 'I'm not going to walk out on my family when they need me most'. 3) 'I am committed to my M vows and becoming the husband/father/person I need to be'. 4) 'Me leaving the M and family is the easy way out and I'm not doing things the easy way anymore, I'm doing what is right.' 5) 'Me leaving is the equivalent of what I have been doing for years, avoiding my problems not owning them.' 6) 'I will do what I have to do, you do what you have to do to be happy.'
At least if I do this, no matter what happens I can hold my head high and say I did what I thought was right and I stood behind my values, vows and principles.
Tell me what is wrong with that now, please? I'm asking again if I'm on the right track because this is what I'm feeling.
jaBRWok, What I see there is someone that is not buying into the divorce trap. Seeking legal advice is a smart thing. Knowledge is power. Keep the legal issue to yourself. You want to keep her from going on the defensive as much as possible in your interactions with her. Get the book as soon as possible. Keep your PMA going. It is hard to argue with a happy person.
