I hope things will work out better in your sich but you would be very wise if you would take note of my story and prepare for:
1) Repeated attempts to reconcile with you once he realizes the depth of his dependency. My advice would be to listen to the substance of what he is saying rather than reacting to the emotional content.
2) Complete melt-down on his end which will leave you coping as a single mother without support.
I was interested to read about how his extended family is supporting you. The same thing occurred in my sich. It's really kind of sad because I have always been nicer to my 2bxMIL than most of her real children and she really misses me at the holidays.
With hindsight is 20/20 vision, I think the only thing you or I might have attempted better would have been to be more "strong bunny" but that's very difficult in a situation where a guy isn't acting at all Alpha and there are children involved.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
