We all have bad days. I just had a major venting session here. I think the feeling has passed now, though.
I hope it has passed for you, too.
Think, man! Think! Think first, then act.
What is it that you want? You want a hot conflict? Want to fight your way through to divorce? Want to alienate your spouse? Then I know the path. Take control. Start issuing demands. Be vindictive. Let your hurt show through by being petty and argumentative. Works like a charm, every time.
On the other hand if you want to give your M a fighting chance, this is the time to do it. This is the time when things are going to get difficult for the one you love. Not through your choice, because I know you wouldn't wish difficulty for the one you love. but difficulty will come. She'll be worried. She'll suffer. This is your chance to support her! Your chance to be there for her. Yes, you've been treated unfairly. You're getting a raw deal. The totally weird part is, she is likely getting a raw deal, too. Now is your chance to be firm, fair, and loving. To let go of the hurt, and let her feel the honest repercussions of her actions. Lovingly. To support her and be there for her. This is your chance. This is the time. You are the man.
You can do this!
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
