Back at DB/new marriage new WAW

[dh4320]

So i had an interesting C session tonight. He has never heard of DB but his ways are very much like DB. He said it is important to detach. He says woman are attracted to Men who do what they want to do, and can fully deal with what is happening to them. Sometimes you can fake it he says but he also said if you have been together long enough your spouse can see right through the fakeness. So his basic teaching is to detach and work on you, do the things you want to do and your spouse will take notice. My W sent me some emails tonight thanking me up and down for sticking to my word of helping her with a new car. At first i told my counselor that i felt like it was helping her get another step away from our R, but he said its not that he said its me showing the W i am still willing to help her and that i care about her... what do you guys think??