I think you're right to give this some time. If your H is angry and coping with the A ending, you don't want to open the door for him to vent his anger on you more than he is already. I just don't see anything constructive and marriage building coming out of that R talk until a little time passes. Unless of course you feel a need to stress your feelings, needs and expectations to him. You have a right to do whatever you need to do for you right now. If this changes how you feel about your R with you H and you need to tell him that, then do. You basically hold the cards. H is a two-time cheater and you deserve better than that. I hope you see this and in time, stand up and tell him that you won't accept any less than a H who is honest, loving, committed and faithful.
