Coming on for a minute for one of my favorites....
I understand what tryingto is saying. Until the A that my wife had is addressed it will eat away at me. It will drive me insane. (Not a far drive). BUT...... and this is a big but. There is a right time to do this and I don't think now is the time. I am kind of in the same place as you. I really think it is over between my W and the a$$ hole. I mean OM. But she was way out in lala land. You need to pull them back into the real world but they are trapped in something like quick sand. If they struggle they will only sink deeper. You need to let them calm down. Let them be relaxed around you. Then hopefully you can slowly pull them out. I am no expert and if you have followed my thread I have made plenty of mistakes. But one thing I have noticed. My W is coming around. The more space that I have given BOTH of us the more she comes closer to my space. Something small happened again tonight. Another little tiny baby step. I sneezed and my W said bless you....... Now I always say this to ANYBODY that sneezes even complete strangers in a store. My son also does this. My W has said it to everybody but me for the last year. Tonight was the first. I would give your H space but not ignore him. But try to keep a positive attitude. Do not take anything he says personally. It only affects your feelings. I want to be a success story here. I want everyone to be one. You need to get to a spot that you realize that yes sometimes people do fall out of love. Love is a risky thing. It's a game of chance. I think what helped our spouses fall out of love is the security we gave them. They thought there was no way they could lose us so where is the challenge. Your H lost his GF. He is sad. Now is our time to shine. I think if you can possible keep a PMA and Gal. he will see he can lose you too. It will make him think. But to get back to tryingto's statement some day it will need to be addressed. Just not now.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
