IAChild, oops, forgot to post and ask you what are taking in grad school?
full time or part time? H actually went full time or correction nearly full time as employer would let him take day courses.
how about you IAC?
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
My graduate studies -- I am working on a masters in public administration with an emphasis on health and human services. It's full time, and I'm working full time. I'm a more non-traditional-still-need-to-work-to-pay-the-bills-kind-of-gal.
I'm not sure what IAC is...can you elaborate? Thanks!
A double full timer, I did that when I was younger, School 4 nights a week, work 5 days, two kids at home with W. It was rough when I was young, don't think I could do it now, but well worth it.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
mike, hi i have been attempting to put up Xmass decorations. moving very slow at it. lol anyway, my dogs, they eat quite a bit of food that is for sure. The food is a concentrate so I don't feed the quanity as I would with some other foods. never the less go through a lot of dog food. I have shown as far south as Baltimore, MD. Always wanted to do the Washington DC circuit during cheery blossom. be fun. Yea, showing is a fair amount of work, dog crates to haul around,exercise and clean up after dogs, bath and groom. But like anything else if you enjoy, then it's fun if you don't enjoy it is work! lol Insurance company does not want to pay for much other than costs for vet care as of today, hmmm. So will talk with them more tomorrow and then contact lawyer and see what we can see. Problem with the lawyer is they all take 25% off top, so better besure you are not selling your self short. My vet said the problem with this kidney damage issue is no one in history has ever seen so many animals with organ damage as this food crisis created. So who knows what is in for the future. Well micoms, what should I do with the christmas issue? What if H gives me a christmas gift,??? should I take or return? If I take am i saying I'll be friends with he and his OW or if I return gift does H see me as saying hit the road???? I do know with out a doubt, H is at such a low point in his own world he would never "fight" for our M, if you know what I am trying to say. So I must not drive him off by drawing lines in the sand to early in the game. H is coming up next week and most likely we will be togethr at least two seperate days. Going to be an interesting holiday season. lol any closer to a coach?
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
Just put up tree yesterday. Got rid of hospital bed that was set up in LR, S had to bring up tree and decorations. W came by and picked up almost all ornaments to take to D's house when I wasn't home. Time to change locks? There were still some old wooden and plastic ornaments from when kids were young, unbreakable.
Showing your dogs is a lot of work, but like any other hobby the work is part of the enjoyment. Sad to hear of kidney damage from food. Have you thought about breeding/showing smaller breed of dog when you have the opportunity? Had a friend who fed that food to his dog, she was older about 13yo. He ended up having to put her to sleep, sad.
I would accept any gift he might want to give you. I don't think by accepting gift you are saying you'll be friends with OW. H might think you no longer care if you send gift back. If you give him a gift does it mean you want to be friends with OW? I think he knows were you stand there.
Don't know what Christmas will be like here. Christmas eve we went to her sisters house, W's aunt an uncle will be there.(W's dad died when she was 3, mom died when she was 14, went to live with aunt.) Don't know if I'll be invited, I hope so. If I'm not I think my S's will leave early to see me. I still plan to buy present for W and her A & U. Funds are very limited due to surgery, but I'm getting both of them digital picture frames. Told S26 probably only able to get GK's presents this year, said thats ok. I think he saw the tears in my eyes, tried not to. Can't get scanner to save to comp, will save to memory card.
What kind of business do you have that he only comes around occasionally?
I need to get prepaid card for coaching. Thanks for that advice. Will try to set up next week. Did you do coaching? Did it help you?
Again I think I'd take the gift if he gives you one for Christmas. Like I said before, do you think OW knows about it? Would she be upset if she knew? (I'm not saying you should tell her) Could be their R is cooling off. Do you have gift for him? Will he stay with you or does he stay at hotel? Hopefully you'll have a good visit with him.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
Going out with friend to work on GAL tonight. We knew each other in high school, wrestled together, but didn't become friends until we went to college. We're best friends so much so that our wives are best friends also. This is the only friend she has kept in contact with.
Don't know what we'll do, probably have a beer or two. Not looking for meeting women, but if it happens? Right now I don't think I'm ready to look for a date but a little flirting wouldn't hurt. Who knows maybe someone she knows will see and tell her, maybe she'll get jealous.
How's your weather up there, lots of snow?
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
hey mike, how did the night out with friends go? There is nothing like a night out with friends to lift your spirits. As my grandmother use to say, does something good for the soul. lol mention GK for your son???? what does that ref? Coach, i am tring to get money together. quite expensive. of course I am also keeping notes and reading. One post mentioned their coach said four things must take place in this order...both put down the weapons, be friends, romance, work on R. Thinking of telling H i am putting my weapons down so, he doesn't have to keep his nucs. on high alert. Learning alot through all of this. One thing is Pain and Anger are for me the same moon. One side is just very dark. OW and gifts., dam I keep waiting for you to tell me to through the gift back at him. lol I honestly do not know if OW knows of the gifts. If she does,very little about them. that I am sure of. Steve would not be the type to flaunt such infront of her. He would keep it all very low key if mention at all. these are items one does not go into a store and shop for. So most likely OW knows not. If I were her and my Bo started sending/ picking up little gifts for the XW I'd sure be getting upset after the second time. ! In fact come to think of it. The antique item H had a long time ago and at time i told him not to send it to me. WOW he held onto it that long.! I am not going to buy a christmas gift for him. He wants to be somewhere else well so be it. Mostly do not want to encourage the slightest possibility of H thinking we are all moving towards"best friends". This really hurts, the best friend issue and not buying him a gift. Last year I had a couple already bought when he left. So I sent them to him. Now being selfish, I'm to hurt to buy him anything, besides I should be GAL, right? lIke you I am starting to wonder if the OWR isn't starting to cool, same thought has gone through my head. Today I even talk to him about med. stuff I have coming up in Jan 08 and H said, "I'll be there if you want me to". Keep in mind H wants us to be all "best friends". H and I have an environmental business, we access, research, recover property of possible envirn. issues. Banks hire us alot to either help design clean up on property they are involved with or to evaluate on property they are going to hold a morgage on. Also do, wetland work, ID, delineate, rebuild, H is now doing historical geological work for NYS. Don't even ask me to explain what that is abut as way beyond anything I understand. Basicly looking by geology for signs of earlier life.....ice age right up to American indians. Do some spill prevention planning for Gas Co drilling for natural gas and other support geological/environmental stuff. Also we intergrate with state, federal agencies and attornies,ie these guys are somehow somewhere involved with every project. Rather interesting work when there is work. To be honest we do most any type environmental stuff, even mold collection/sampling, etc. Sorta like selling life insurance, always looking for the next contract.
Say I have an idea, W came and took christmas tree decorations. Why don't you have a party and tell everyone to bring an ornament for your tree. Everyone will have fun and new tree !!! Gee I can't believe you wife would just walk in clear out christmas decorations. IF I were your D not sure that is what I'd want to be looking at in my living room. Family decorations in my house cause my parents split.mmmm.. yea, maybe you should change locks. last night while reading posts found one where H's W walked away and wanted D. So H treated everything as if that is how is. Such as did not want contact, they are divorcing, were not going to be friends, divorcing, etc. Maybe you should let your W experience life Dd. Change the locks.
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
micoms, forgot to ask, night out, flirting and making W jealous? Wish I could would my H.
When I was growing up we always had a dog except my mom would not have Big dogs, nothing over 30 lbs.....so now I have my big dog,Dogs,.... I doubt I'd ever go back to a small breed. Although may have to one day. But for now, I have my big dogs. last night I had three of them sleeping on bed at once, 4 @ one time. You certainly stay warm. lol
later grid, lost
-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)
Night out is tonight, waiting for friend to call me back. If he doesn't go I'll go with S25, he might go with us if friend calls. Gk means grand kids.
I think I'll get W a digital picture frame, put pics of kid throughout the school years, vacation pics, pics of us in happier times. Maybe it will make her think? Don't know if I'll be invited to her sisters Christmas Eve. S's said they will leave early to spend time with me. We always had kids back home Christmas morning, I'll invite her, don't know if she'll show.
If H wants to give you gifts accept them, if you give them back he might think you are disconnecting from him. Like I said I bet OW doesn't know about them, she'd probably be upset if she knew.
W called house today, let it go to VM. She said she needed her spare car keys. D19 called about an hour later said that mom was wanting keys. Told D they were on windowsill in bedroom and were gone when W came for clothes. W said she doesn't have them but I think I saw them at D24's house. W sounded pleasant on VM.
Business sounds interesting especially research on if Indians were at location.
Breeding smaller dogs< I don't think I could handle the real small ones they seem a bit too hyper, Maybe a 10 to 20lb dog. Certainly would be easier on dog food!!
Gotta go.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
