Oh I know and can understand the deep down problems would have to be addressed. I guess I was thinking if Sue said he needed time to get over his heart breaking right now and be given time that would also mean not letting him know he had been busted. Because then all of a sudden maybe in a month from now he might turn nice again. Then sweep it under the carpet and never say a word. Then he thinks he got away with it. So what happens when the next comes along or if that ever happens.
I know I mentioned I have a cousin who is studying to be a therapist. She is studying under this one therapist right now. I guess you call it a residency. But there is this one woman who's husband has had several affairs. I mean like 15 of them. The wife is afraid of confronting him. He isn't abusive. But she is scared she will lose him so she doesn't say a word. She now has zero self esteem and is medicated on like 4 different types of medication to get her through the day. That's why she comes in for therapy. She has had the same therapist for many years. I remeber my cousin saying something about the fact the therapist mentioning something along the lines of communication. I would have to ask her. It was just such a sad story.
