Okay guys tell me if I am way off base here. This is something I want to ask my cousin who is med school to be a therapist also. But to me I would show my husband the evidence that I had found. Because he has to know that he got busted. You just can't put an affair on the back burner and act like it never happened. You can't ever get past if you don't talk about it. If you don't see the hurt the person has suffered because of your affair. Sure it may not work then to I know that. But communication is the key to a happy marriage. I have heard that so many times and during counseling. He would be under the impression that he fell in love, had sex with another woman and got away with it. He then could be onto his 3rd affair thinking he got away with this one.
Sorry Sue I am not trying to make you feel worse. I guess I am just at a loss about not confronting and giving space when he has clearly been busted. Maybe I am going about things wrong in my marriage when I confront things that hurt me all the time. I have just been taught that you can't ever hope for a happy marriage unless you have communication.
Also how dare he take it out on you that he is angry about his OW breaking up with him. : (
I am sorry you had to read that letter. I know it had to hurt. It sure hurt when I read my husband's letters he wrote. It actually made me sick to my stomach.
