SueS, I completely understand. My wife dumped her boyfriend two weeks ago (well, she said she did, but she still calls and emails him, so really nothing has changed). Anyway, I understand what you mean. So now their choice is not "me or them." It's "me or nobody," which raises the emotional stakes for us.
I don't have time to add much more. But just remember that I am there with ya!! We can get through this together, OK????
