Beauty, We all go through the snooping phase. It's a way to protect yourself. So sorry about what you found, though -- OW2. That sucks.
Interesting that is his own way, he is pursuing you in that he calls and calls you, then is concerned that something happened to you when you don't answer. He could be afraid of losing you, and probably still cares about you. Like most WAS, he wants his cake, and wants to eat it, too.
It does sound like your H is either in early MLC or depression. Why won't he see a therapist? Have you had any sort of R talks with him at all?
For now, I agree with LWB, definitely protect yourself and your children. Take care of yourself and them!
