Holy Toledo!!!! WOW, Sue. That was painful for *me* to read, I can't believe you had to read it. I am sorry for that. So, it seems it was an EA and a PA, I am so sorry.
Yes, H is mourning, but he is also married to you, someone who doesn't deserve the screaming and abuse he has poured onto you and D3. Space is what you both need right now. I like that someone asked "What do you want". This is A #2. I know for a fact I said I would never put up with one A, and look at me now. So, I think we all personally have to decide what we can take.
H loves you. H loves D3. But H is troubled, lost and sinking. We (your DB team) have to figure out how to save him.
