Hmmm... kind of. Especially if the R imbalance has gone on for a long time. In order to bring the R back towards balance... a One Down practices Healthy Distance, and a One Up practices Trial Closeness. The One Down experiences 'separation anxiety,' while the One Up experiences 'emotional engulfment.'
Very interesting. I would say that I've been "practicing" a subset of that theory. From my experience, I would say the person who tends towards being HD wants the other person to be "one up" because that makes the other person seem sexy. If the other person is sexy then the HD person can feel sexual. So, to reverse the trend, the HD person should concentrate on being sexy rather than sexual. So, obviously, the LD person should concentrate on being sexual rather than sexy. However, I would say that the healthiest way to address the issue would be to figure out a way to "team up" on the effort. For instance, saying something like "D*mn, we are going to be the sexiest couple at the party tonight!" Another "trick" is to "pursue" with confidence from the "one up" position. Basically, proceed as though you are thinking "I wonder if you are man enough to handle a woman as nice and as strongly sexual as me?" IOW, proceed as though the fact that somebody can't handle emotional engulfment puts them in a "one down" position rather than the usual "one up" position. This is basically a variation of the way a wimpy child can be taught to handle a bully.
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