Taking it day by day...

[SueS]

H4C-

Do you think when you talk to an attorney or do file for legal separation that you can ask about temporary custody?

Now, I know you said that you feel that any type of filing will force your W out of your life forever and I hate to see that happen when you still want her, but this is your D's well being. It's unacceptable for your W to be using that language in front of your D and calling her a liar. I'm sure she can be a great mom, but I heard my MIL use this language and say these types of things to her grown sons and have seen the anger in her sons and the damage that it's done to them. My H had a very strong love-hate relationship with his mom because of the way she was with him. She'd praise/defend him to others, but turn around 2 seconds later and tell him what a loser he was. Both her sons have this anger issue. I'd just hate to see your D hurt any more by this.

2 1/2 years ago, my H got very down because he'd been denied a job that he really wanted. He was in a new state and didn't know anyone. He came home very drunk one day and told me that he was leaving (moving back to IL) and taking our D with him. He stuck around the area for a few days until he finally decided to go to his dad's. He did come back 2 weeks later. However, my defense mechanism kicked in right away. I stayed at a friend's house until he left. I moved D to another daycare so he couldn't take her when I was at work. He and I met briefly just before he left to go to his dad's. I didn't bring D with me. He was livid, but I didn't care. No one was taking her from me or putting her in danger. I know now that H would most likely not do that to me again, but I showed him that when it came to her.......No Messing Around.

Sorry to be so long or put those negative thoughts in your mind, but there's just some thoughts.

SueS