Please show her some respect and courtesy, even if it kills you. I can feel your disapproval of her choices through here. Look, I know it's going to kill me on Christmas morning when my kids aren't here. I know they'll have fun with my W's parents though. It's important for your kids to spend time with all relatives, there's nothing wrong with that.
I'm halfway between Nomo and Sunny on the expenses discussion. Things WILL change. Is your intent tonight to punish/hurt your W or to calmly and rationally start a discussion about what the financial ramifications will be of the split? The end result financiall will most likely be the same. What do you want the end result to be emotionally?
Tone, man, tone.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
