Thanks for your post. I bought the CD's to Passionate Marriage, but, I fall asleep before it finishes. I'm sorry to admit that, but it's true. I've got to try to listen other than when it is time to go to bed. It must be his soft voice that just lulls me to sleep.
Anyway, about the truck and all my H's junk. I suppose it was b/c of my grandmother and my mother and the way they raised me to be concerned about what others thought. They were fanatics about their house, yard, cars, etc. I'm not that bad, but you would have to see how bad it is to understand! I mean, you can see the trash on the dash board before you can see him when the truck is coming down the street. Nobody can ride with him b/c he has so much stuff in the cab of the truck, there is no room. And, we won't even mention how the back looks. I expect it to look like a painter's truck, don't get me wrong....but it doesn't look like a painter's truck, that's the problem.
I never had a lot growing up, but at least it didn't look like "trashy" people lived there. I can't stand for people to judge us by how our place looks. And, people do! I've heard people talk about other folks houses and yards, etc., so I know they do.
Maybe living in a small place makes a difference. Everyone knows everyone else. I can separate his truck from me, but the yard and house.....that's a different story.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
