I figured that all of the contact that she was initiating and the content of our conversations were both good indicators that I should try making a move. So I took the chance and approached it carefully knowing that she was in a good mood and was already talking to me. I tried to stack as much up in my favor as I could before I asked her.
I'll be sure to let everyone know how it goes... B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
She called me today to ask me advice on getting tires. She ended up having to get a credit card in order to pay for the tires. She's pretty stressed out about it and IMed me saying that she felt like she was having an anxiety attack. I told her to breathe deep and try to relax. I asked her what was wrong and she said that she was really stressed out about money. Stupid me said that I would help out. To which she replied "I don't want your help". I just said ok. Another part of me wanted to say "I don't need this effin s#$t. I can find plenty of women that would treat me better than you. B#$%H"... It passed though and I still love her despite it all.
She also said to me while she was on the phone that she was thinking about moving back in with her parents after her lease is up at the end of February so that she could save money. I did good here and didn't say anything about how much money she could save if she moved back in with me. Still it hurts to know that she's looking that far ahead and can't see herself being back at home. A small part of me was wondering if she was fishing for me to say something. I think that's the part of me that's still not detached though and I need to ignore him...
After all that, she said that she was looking forward to tomorrow night. There's some days when I have a hard time being on this coaster.
Oh, and she was also upset that I didn't call her last night? I never said that I would, but she said that she was waiting around all night for me to call... I just said that phones worked both ways and that I would have been happy to talk to her if she had called.
Strange days...
-B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Another small positive that I've noticed is that she's started using IM again. She had stopped using it while she was at work before she left. It started slow a week or so ago. She would log in just to say something to me and then log back out again right away. Now she's logged in pretty much all day. And she talks to me quite a bit on it. This is something that we used to do all the time. We would chat with each other all day sometimes. It kind of feels like it's getting back to that again. I don't think that I've started a conversation on it with her yet and I don't think that I will for a while since I don't want to spook her out of using it.
I know it's not much, but it is one more line of communication that she's opened up to me. I'll take what I can get...
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Another part of me wanted to say "I don't need this effin s#$t. I can find plenty of women that would treat me better than you. B#$%H"... It passed though and I still love her despite it all.
LOL! This is so funny. Those feelings aren't 'passing' in me anymore...they're sticking. But that helps me detach!
You've got some great things to bank some hope on. And as far as her moving w/ her parent's at the end of February...that is 2 1/2 months away! Anything can happen between now and then. I think that's good news...she's not renewing her lease!
AND...you've got a date with her tomorrow! I'll be saying a prayer for you...hope it goes really well. J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
I have to let those feelings pass, otherwise I would probably end up doing something that I would regret later. We all detach in our own way and I think that I'm doing ok otherwise.
She would be moving at the beginning of February so that's 1 1/2 months, but you're right in that's a long time away. It would just be nice to hear some future talk from her that included me. I know that's not a fair expectation to put on her or myself at this point. Like I said though, that's the part of me that's not detached yet and I have to ignore him.
I know I've got some good things going. Thanks for the prayer. I'll be saying a few of my own... B
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
Since there's a lot of negatives around here, it's nice to point out some positives: 1. She was upset that you didn't call her! Dude. Hello, McFly. That's good. 2. She's started another line of communication with IM. Again, good. 3. She called to lean on you for emotional support about the tires. You were there for her. Again, good. 4. You've got a date with her tonight. Very good.
OK. All that said, might not mean shyte. You can't know. So, keep those expectations stuffed into a box and lock it. Then throw that box into the ocean. Have a good time, show her the wonderfulness that is you.
LOL about your thinking about the tires. That's flashed through my head a few times over the past year as well.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
