I Was Almost A WAW....Still (Next Thread)

[Dom R]

Still waiting on your choice of "3 most important things"... have you run out of excuses yet?

Well, I didn't know I was giving excuses, I thought I was explaining what those three things that were very important to me were. I must not be doing a very good job, so let me try again.

oops.. sorry. me man. use small words/sentances. lol
was looking for a short, concise list. This does very nicely. thank you.

1. I want my H to have a fulltime working schedule so that we can depend upon steady income.

2. I want my H to be more organized with his business, pay bills and taxes on time, and keep his business related and personal things in a designated place and out of sight.

3. I want my H to stop bringing home "junk" to pile up in the back yard causing it to be an eye sore to the entire neighborhood.

Hmm.. all very big things!!
Thank you for being honest about your "top 3".

In a way, that's more than 3. I see:

• have a steady income
• be more professional financially
• Keep his business/personal things out of sight
• clean up the back yard, and keep it clean(er)

more coming later, for a "next step".

Well, I need more numbers! But, even though you may not see how this would affect my MR....it does b/c it has built resentment over the years and he won't try to change. So, if he would start with those three things, I would be so very happy.

oh, I COMPLETELY see how they would affect your marriage!

If he would even make out a list for me and what he would like for me to do or not to do......I would. I've tried to get him to do this before. As I've already told the story, and he would just say all he wanted was more sex. That would be a complete turn-off and disappointment to me. I was willing to work and to change whatever he wanted, but all he would say was...."just more sex". It made me feel as though he didn't put a second's worth of thought into any list at all. So, I haven't tried it anymore.

That's good information to re-share.

What this says to me is, that... at the time you asked, that was the #1 most important thing to him, and he was blinded by his testosterone, and couldnt think clearly about anything else.

That sounds kinda cliche.. almost silly.
But speaking as a man who has been sometimes "under the influence" of testosterone-induced stupidity in that fashion... I can wager a guess that it was probably true.

I'm betting that, while it is still "important" to him.... that he deals with his hormones a lot better now. So, i strongly believe, that now is a worthwhile time to try something similar again.

more coming....