new here. Feel like dying

[DaveJ]

But, h really likes her and says that the mc we've been seeing off and on for 5 years is completely incompetant compared to this lady.

That is because this IC
1. doesn't know the whole story since he's only telling his side. 2. Isn't making him owning up to his responsibilities like your MC was probably doing.

I remember going to MC a long time ago and always feel like I'm being ganged up by my W and the MC. Maybe the MC is incompetant, maybe not. But I'm sure he doesn't want to deal with anything to do with what he messed up in the M. He's most likely pointing fingers at you and blaming everything on you. And I'm sure the IC is validating everything he's saying most likely. People always prefer others that agree with them.