Hairy, the boards are great and really help a lot of people. And they've helped me too. What I quibble with is that if MWD believes it cannot work when you are dealing with a SO with substance abuse the moderators ought to be on the look out for that. There is a kind of DBing fascism that gets practised here - not so much on SSM - but on the other boards that says you have to stick it out. The whole Act as IF mentality gets twisted around into Act like its all OK. I think we know a little better than that here. I guess if I hadn't come to these boards when he first walked out and had found them later I would have been left wondering what I could have done. Now I know what I could have done, I've done it and here we are. So I know I did the best I possibly could. That does help.
And it also makes a difference knowing he could have come here and didn't.
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
