I'm sure he's telling "his side of the story" to his ic. What she needs to realize is that she's only hearing his side of the story. She also needs to re-direct to the ic and not the marriage. But, h really likes her and says that the mc we've been seeing off and on for 5 years is completely incompetant compared to this lady. It bugs me that I'll never get to meet with her.
As for the sex to alleviate the need for porn...I thought I had that taken care of. I looked at the date on the computer and specifically remember that night. He came over, but didn't come to bed for a couple hours. And, when he did...well he wanted to bring out the toys and everything. Now I know why. We're actually having more sex now than when we lived together...something I wouldn't mind putting an end to. It's enjoyable and all, but I feel a little used afterwards. You know like he's getting what he wants, but without the commitment. But, I also don't want him looking elsewhere. And, I think that maybe, he'll feel some sort of connection and realize what he may lose. Wishful thinking?
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."