Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[Pudmuddle]

My only other thought on this Ann, is that now he is aware of you saying these things, so maybe stop talking about it with him? You said yourself that you sound like a broken record. Continuing to say that will go in his one ear and out the other at some point, not meaning much. Maybe back off a little since he is highly emotional right now, and wait for him to begin a R talk. Listen and validate when he does, the usual.