You have sole custody for the time being? That is great, but she must be having some really BIG issues for the court to do that. You know what I think has sort of had my W turning and looking back, is that while I remain open to the idea of reconciling, we are getting the D. I have to be legally protected from her. Maybe if you requested a sit down with her and explained the following it will help:
1. We will be getting a D. 2. That doesn't mean we still can't try to reconcile and maybe marry again later. (That why she can't run you out of your house, and if you have the kids and she is a major screw up you just change the locks again!!) 3. If you need help for thereapy or doctor services I can assist.
I have basically done this with my WAW and she is dying now. I can see her wanting to come home and work it out. Calls me now, asked for a family activity, etc. However, I can see the guilt wave behind starting to rise up and she is crashing. She even said the other day it was so easy with OM, because she didn't have to face the fear of losing her S and family. Now she says she has no friends, family members are ashamed of her, she is in jeoperdy of losing her job, and the only person who has been the rock.
Its a tough sitch when the get this wacky, but she has to face her demons alone. Take care of the kids.
