I think that is good, and I think you should continue to stick to your guns. Because you are addressing this, and you are not backing down from it... the balance of the R is shifting. It will go back to what it was if you back off.
Now... what can happen is... she can get thrust into the One Down position... and she WILL start pursuing you... it will feel akin to a 'honeymoon' stage. If this happens, the R is still going to be out of balance. That's why saying this...
Quote:
"There is a dynamic going on in our M that I think we need to address. I feel unloved. I feel as if you'd rather run a few miles with your friends than spend 10 minutes making love to me. Which probably makes me seem very needy and clingy to you. I would imagine when you feel this from me, you feel a need to put distance between us. The more I pursue, the more distance you need. And the more distance you need, the more I pursue. Can you see how we are doing this to one another?"
... is so important. The goal for the two of you is to get the R back into balance, not for YOU to regain the One Up. So both of you need to be aware of the dynamics in order to fix it.
You can do a LOT on your own, with or without her. But YOU have to be aware of what is occurring...
