Originally Posted By: sandi2
Yep tried that too. When his room over-flowed.....it didn't bother him, he just let it run over into the rest of the house.


The thing is... you "let him", too.

If he agrees to that again... it should be with the explicit understanding that if he doesnt keep his crap under control... then you are going to take care of what is jointly your house, since he is not doing so.. and *you* will throw out any stuff that strays from that room.

After the first time he screws up,and you chuck something... I'm betting you will see a whooole lot more attention to that on his part ;\) Just make sure to get the agreement of, "if he doesnt take responsibility for the mess, you will", actually on paper, so that he doesnt forget that is what he actually agreed to, when the time comes.


Erm.... but thats just a POTENTIAL way to deal with this issue, though.
It's not the only way. But it could be one potential way.


Still waiting on your choice of "3 most important things"... have you run out of excuses yet? ;\)

You need to stop wasting your mental energy on reasons why "it wont work", and just identify your top 3 most important things from the list you have already made.

Once you have done that... THEN we can get more creative about potential solutions to them, like I have just done for that specific one.

no more excuses, mrs WAW?





Last edited by Dom R; 12/05/07 08:36 PM.
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