Originally Posted By: lizzy

I see in your thread Brit that you are doing a very good job of making plans w/ your D. However, she is relying on you much more than my H is me. He only relies on me to take care of the Ds and his laundry. H does not look to me for an emotional support.


Quit doing his laundry then \:\)

Originally Posted By: lizzy

I just really feel that at this point in time he is going to take anything I ask about Christmas as manipulation. Since one of his issues w/ me is that it is me and the Ds and then him alone, I also hate to make plans that don't include him. It just seems that I am in a no win sitch.


You're not making plans that don't include him. You are making plans that he can be part of if he decides to be. The decision to being part of it is entirely his.

Originally Posted By: lizzy

I do plan to dec some halls tonight before he comes back tomorrow. I invited him to have dinner with us tomorrow and he said ok although he didn't seem excited. H keeps telling the girls on the phone that he misses them and loves them. Nothing for me. Last night he didn't even talk to me because his battery was low.


That sucks - Maybe he is tired, or stressed, or a mixture of both. My W and I only occasionally talk on the phone, but it's never anything really 'intimate' - No ILY or whatever, even though we do it in person.