Another newbie with a problem - long story

[Stormchaser]

If I were writing this situation to you... what would you tell me? Seriously.

Deep breath:

I would say, don't go. A line has to be drawn in the sand. This party is important to her, and what better way to show how damn serious you are by telling her that unless things change, there will be no more "us". People will ask at the party why I'm not there and I'm sure she'll make up some kind of bullshit excuse because she doesn't want anyone to know the truth; that the image of our Norman Rockwell picture perfect relationship is shattered.

My own lack of discipline. My own lack of discipline. Wash, rinse, repeat.

I've borrowed this from the DB forums and made some adjustments to tailor my situation. Here goes..

"There is really little justification for avoiding sex with me for two weeks at a time. None. This is important to me, I feel emotionally connected with you when my physical needs are met, yet when tv shows, days out with the girlfriends, phone calls, napping, etc take a higher position of your time and energy than I do, I feel rejected. I feel unloved. I feel as if you'd rather run a few miles with your friends than spend 10 minutes making love to me. Our marriage is going to be in real trouble if your job continues to be a bigger priority than a healthy sex life with me. I don't think I can make this any more clear"