new here. Feel like dying

[Dom R]

Last night we had an arguement. I wasn't terribly nice, but I'm so pent up with all of the above and then some...I don't know how to get rid of it!!

i think you are frustrated, because you dont have a plan, and you dont know what to do, but you believe that doing nothing, is bad.

I want to tell him that his counselor is not pro-marriage, that our problems are NOT marriage-ending problems, and that she needs to NOT be giving him marriage advice.

I think that you should do that... yet, mainly stick to the points of, "she's not qualified to give marriage advice: she's not a marriage counsellor, she admits she's not a marriage counsellor, so what she says about it is irrelevant, and actually harmful ."
It would be like seeing a podiatrist (foot specialist) about a problem with your brain/head.
If you have a problem with your brain, it makes sense to go talk to a neurologist(?) about it.

side comment: In some ways, what you found on the computer, is "good". it means that he's THINKING about doing other stuff, rather than having actually done it yet. So.. dont confront him about it. just let it go.

(you might wanna give him more frequent sex, though, to alleviate the porn thing.)