I Was Almost A WAW....Still (Next Thread)

[Dom R]

[quote=sandi2]

This sounds like things for me to do, but actually it is things he has to do on a regular basis b/c I do all I can to clear junk out, but he is the one that constantly piles it back in,

totaly understandable. he makes the mess, he should have to clean up the mess, in my opinion

The "date night" thing....I don't know if I'm ready for that yet, but something fun without pressure sure would be nice.

gotcha. "date" has some implications, that arent neccessary.
How about... ummm... just 'doing something fun together outside the house, at least once a week'?

Since cold weather is moving in, he may relent to wear sweat pants.

you dont have to "solve" that by yourself before saying anything.
The most important thing, is to first identify that you have an issue with him just wearing underware around the house.
Stay open to working out possible solutions at a later time, rather than trying to lock in a specific solution up front.
He might come up with a solution that you would never have thought of.

He might not, either... but you never know. Dont limit yourself to only solutions that you yourself can think of. Keep an open mind to working together.


as far as tax organization... at some point, you might suggest that he go talk to a .. erm... financial planner/advisor/counsellor/whatever they are called, for better ideas on how to organize himself, in a style that fits him best.

But aaaaannyways.... how about picking your top 3 from the list now?



PS: if for some reason, you reaaally feel like you'd like all 5 things worked on, becuase you cant pick a "top 3"... that might be a possibility.
Trouble is, it would neccessitate a whole lot more work on your part.
I dont think you are motivated enough, for the amount of work that would take. I think it's best to start small, and feel good about what happens when you suceed.
Kinda like what michelle says in the book, about aiming for "small goals" one at a time, rather than trying to solve everything at once?