I have to say that my W wanted me to leave, even though she was the WAS....we had some really tough discussions in counseling and after a few weeks of me saying I would never leave, I conceded to leave in a C session because i thought it was the best opportunity for us to figure this out. However, after much discussion among friends and family, I came to the belief that she needed to experience the difficulty of all that comes with moving out. She is the one that has chosen this route so she should be put out the most. So....I changed my mind. One night she said to me that she thought my looking for a place to live was proceeding rather slowly. Thus, I dropped my bomb on her that I had changed my mind. Yes...she blew a gasket. She was really pissed for awhile but I stuck to my decision. She began looking for houses and discovered how expensive it was. I believe she also discovered how difficult it would be. In only a couple weeks after I laid this on her, she 'decided' that she wanted to work on our M. But, I blew it. I got too excited and backslid for miles. She has now decided she does not want to work on it and has stated she will move out in Jan.
I am of the belief that if I moved out, her life would go on much the same and I would be out of sight out of mind pretty fast. I think she has a bigger chance of missing me and what she had if she's not here. So...I'll recommend that since your W wants to walk away, then literally walk away.
