I agree, detaching and GALing seem to be what needs to be done. Neither of our Ws are in a place where they have a desire to work on the M, therefore we can't make them, and keeping a lot of contact is probably just seen as pursuit, us trying to improve the R when they don't want to. If they are ever going to come around it will be on their time frame. We can't make them, but we also can't just sit around waiting, as 1) we'll go nuts with that kind of waiting game, and 2) why would they want to come back to some guy who's just sitting around for them? So, detach and GAL, I've been doing a fine job GALing I think, now it's time to detach.
It's impossible for me to say how much contact to give. I plan on waiting around a week at least, other than the short response to her e-mail that I may do. I hope it will be a moot point as she'll be initiating and I'll just respond, but maybe not.
Went to C this morning. It was odd cause last week we were talking how I hadn't talked to W in a week, while this week I heard from her almost every day. C isn't sure about the mixed message either of my W wanting space, but saying email and phone is ok, but she agreed with my plan of just giving space overall. Agreed that we both need to work on ourselves, and space is probably the best way to get that to happen. She did say if I heard nothing for 2 weeks to consider checking in, we'll see if it gets that far.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
