Jak,
I think sleeping in separate rooms is indicative of the turbulence we've had over the past months. It may represent something different for her.

This past week has been the most turbulent-free for awhile. I'm thinking that if the platonic R and friendship improves, than there may be potential for addressing physical intimacy issues.

Her sleeping elsewhere keeps me distant. My preference is for the sleeping elsewhere to stop before I return to the bedroom.

Her being nice to me lately seems strange and foreign. I keep waiting for the turbulence to return.

It seems premature to return to the bedroom. Maybe separate bedrooms is what's needed for now. I think you're right though that at some point this should cease. She's not giving me any indication that she wants physical intimacy. I'm not sure I can be close to someone who is capable of being so harsh and blaming on a regular basis.

I think staying in separate rooms, while working on GAL, conflict management skills, and our friendship is the best plan for now. We seem to be moving forward.

CL

Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 12/05/07 05:50 PM.
CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching