I agree with Brit. I do think you need to go ahead and invite him to things as you normally would (as if), but lower your expectations on what his responses might be. This worked for me when I used to do the same to my H, and that way I didn't feel totally rejected if he said no. But I also understand how you feel this could feel like manipulation as well. It's a hard choice, but one that only you can know what to do.
I would say stop doing his laundry!!! I often did not do my Hs laundry because I told him 'I thought you wanted to be separate...' Don't know if this was good db, but it didn't tick him off. Your H might react differently...
Trust me, I expect him to say no. It still hurts when he does.
H has told me he has gone down a couple of times to do laundry and that he feels bad that it is already done. The thing is, he puts it down the shoot. Does he expect me to sort it out and leave it in a pile? I would feel really pety doing that. I'll see what he does w/ all his clothes when he gets back from his trip tomorrow.
