Another newbie with a problem - long story

[Stormchaser]

I will be getting that book, Corri. I'm always up for reading good stuff, I've got NMMNG, SSM, not to mention a few other relationship books.

I'll answer some of the other postings later, but for now I'm faced with a dilemma - I've decided that tomorrow night is her night off and I'm going to probably spend some quality time with my brother, something I haven't done in months. She may bark about it being "the family night" together, so I'm wondering how to approach that.

We've also barely spoken since last weekend, our schedules don't match anyway, but we often talked during the day by phone. Its been pretty much "hi, goodbye" every day.

The other dilemma is she has that xmas party coming up this Saturday. Its something I do look forward to, however, given the current state how I feel (very distant right now), and knowing it would most likely result in the alcohol sex, would it be a good idea to simply tell her I don't want to go? FWIW, asking her not to drink ain't gonna work - I'll get the "you don't control me" lecture. Or do we have to start some kind of dialogue now?