Sorry, hairdog... I disagree with you (but I still love you). Exiled is right
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Please don't try to make him talk about it. You will only make things worse.
Miss IC, you know that IC is capable of expressing himself. Just give him some time and space and let him know you want to know what's going on inside and you'll be ready to listen WHEN HE'S READY TO TALK.
Yeah, it was dramatic... tossing the expensive stuff to the kid with a line that might have been spoken by Gary Cooper or Ronald Reagan (in the movies), but it's a measure of how bad IC is feeling. AND THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF!!! Sometimes it happens, sometimes you need to do this.
From what we know of IC, this state of mind will morph into something else. He's not crazy or mentally unbalanced. He's a man who's grieving about a lot of things.
When his leg is back to 100%, buy some new hockey stuff. I think that would be appropriate to celebrate his "comeback" even if he hadn't given the other stuff away.
And who knows what effect that gift will have on the kid? It could be a turning point in his life.
Miss IC, try not to panic (I know it's hard). Give the man a little breathing room. I feel sure everything is okay. I know you rely on him to be strong for you, and when he shows what you interpret as "weakness," you feel that your foundation is shaky.
Let the man have his full range of emotion... not just the positive, hopeful, and optimistic, but the dark and despairing, too.
