I agree with Brit. I do think you need to go ahead and invite him to things as you normally would (as if), but lower your expectations on what his responses might be. This worked for me when I used to do the same to my H, and that way I didn't feel totally rejected if he said no. But I also understand how you feel this could feel like manipulation as well. It's a hard choice, but one that only you can know what to do.
I would say stop doing his laundry!!! I often did not do my Hs laundry because I told him 'I thought you wanted to be separate...' Don't know if this was good db, but it didn't tick him off. Your H might react differently...
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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