This women and power thing. My guess is that women (especially LD) have trouble GIVING up power, because this makes them vulnerable.
Hmmm... kind of. Especially if the R imbalance has gone on for a long time. In order to bring the R back towards balance... a One Down practices Healthy Distance, and a One Up practices Trial Closeness. The One Down experiences 'separation anxiety,' while the One Up experiences 'emotional engulfment.'
Quote:
When your vulnerable, often bad things happen. Would it be correct to say that a womens response to not liking the feeling of vulnerability is to eleiminate the vulnerability by taking charge, to seek POWER over everything. And like wise, the guys response is ofen to go into his cave and avoid vulnerable situations? Does this equate to a powerful women having a lot of insecuritites?
Depends on the personality type, situation, etc. I don't think your wife TOOK power. I think you gave it to her, and continue to give it to her because you will NOT, under any circumstance, leave the R. She has no healthy anxiety. She can dish out whatever the heck she wants, and you will TAKE IT, and she knows it.
For you, even though you will not leave the R, SHE doesn't have to know that. But you've allowed her to know that. You can do things that create healthy amounts of anxiety... but you don't do that.
You keep HER in the One Up position... which actually makes you the covert One Up. You have her paralyzed. And I wonder why you do that.
