Well, IC's going through another avoidance issue. I just wish I could get a better understanding of him and men in general as to why he / them won't talk or can't talk about certain things.
We went the other night to the ice rink where a bunch of his buddies where playing hockey, nothing competitive, just a bunch of guys goofing around. IC assured me that he was just going to skate a little....he's still wearing a fairly large knee brace that keeps his knee stable and given the situation, I felt pretty comfortable that he wasn't going to press anything and just take it easy. He shot some pucks and when the guys started getting more into "game" mode, IC knew he wasn't ready to play yet, so he skated off and went in the locker room to change. He seemed fine.
He came back out of the locker room with his large duffle bag of equipment, skates, sticks etc...and as he passed this teenage kid that IC has been watching, coaching if you will... IC drops all his stuff by the bench that the kid was sitting on lacing up his skates, pats the kid on the back and says, "here you go kid, good luck with it and keep at it....you've got what it takes" and then walks out of the building with me hurrying behind trying to keep up.
I don't know what it is...IC knows his knee is getting better. It was his first time back on the ice since he was hurt. IC, how can you judge how well your knee is going to respond by a mere 20 minute skate...to skate off the ice and what?? Give probably $1000.00 worth of equipment away...equipment that you use for the game that you love and walk away from it? And now to avoid talking to me not only about it, but about most anything in general.
What is it IC ? Is it the knee, the cancer...what? Is this an early sign that you're starting to give up?....If that's the case, don't you even fcking dare think of going there IC. If not for you, then for these 2 girls that want and need their dad. I NEED and WANT you around...for a long time. What is it...talk to me! I hate when you get into this avoidance, withdrawn state...nothing is so big that we can't deal with it, but you need to talk to me...please!
Can anyone help me out as to why men (or women, I guess) do this? We've gone over and over this as to how key it is to communicate with each other but yet here we are.......again
