she just told me that she is with someone elseHELP

[Michael Mc C]

I know that this is one area that I must work on to improve my confidence in myself. I just know its going to be hard with out her telling me that I can and will..and telling me to keep going.

My suggestion for this, and I'm no expert, is to find a mentor - whether its related to school or to your career. Find someone whose opinion you trust, not someone that will tell you what you want to hear.

Don't use this person as a crutch but as someone you can learn from. Learn how to encourage yourself. Learn how to recognize your successes. Learn where you could be doing better and focus on making those improvements. You don't need someone to lead you by the hand but someone that can start by pointing you in the right direction, thereby teaching you how to find that direction yourself.

You do NOT want to replace your need for your wife's validation with that of another. You NEED to learn to validate yourself and your actions on your own.

Find a mentor and learn, do not find someone to stroke you.