Back at DB/new marriage new WAW

[dh4320]

Thnaks Anne,

I know i am reading into it too much, I will offer for her to come over and spend time with the kids but i will be the supervisor like it or not. Ya thats true she doesnt want to inconvienence anyone but me, hehe. Instead of her seeing her kids today she went to see her lawyer instead, i think every time i stand firm she feels she needs to run to her attorney so he can tell her"he cant do what he is doing to you". I am going to take the kids some time this week to get a tree, i think i will offer to her to join along... I am trying to be detached but i dont want to look like i am using the kids as leverage this sucks, i am glad i dont have someone argueing with me daily, but working as much as i do and taking care of the little ones can be stressful. They both are running fevers today and i was at the dr's office for 2 hours today and all i was thinking is how angry i am at her for doing all she has done to this point. Then i think back to just 6 weeks ago she was going to a bible study strictly on working on our marriage, then i feel wierd about everything and think she truly did work on it, but now is it just too late and she only wants to be cordial frineds and raise our kids as divorced parents.

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[ann25]

Hang in there. Take care you those little ones and you too! hopefully spending some time with you and the kids will help her see the family that she wanted to work so hard for before.

[dh4320]

thanks anne,

i am enjoying my time with my kids, although they are so young when i see my 5 month old daughter smile i turn to pure mush. I found out my W did not pay the copays for the last 2 months of the kids doctor visits so when i took them today i got a 548 dollar bill, god i was pissed one thing after another pops up with this crazy W of mine, i think i am surprised no more nothing else that pops up will surprise me,,,,

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[dh4320]

Had a long talk with W's Aunt last night, she is very close to W especially after W's mother died of cancer when she was only nine. Her aunt told me that she does not understand what W is doing. She said she would testify that W is not in a stable condition to care for our kids. I was surprised to hear that but this woman knows the W better than anyone and says this is not the way she would handle things. So i guess if her own family says she is an alien then it must be true. I am definately detached, i do not call, text email or snoop, frankly i dont have time. I was thinking about asking her to join me and the kids to get a tree, then i decided not to if she wants to see me or the kids then she needs to make the first step. Again its only been 2 1/2 weeks so i cant expect anything overnight but she did choose to go see the attorney instead of her kids yesterday which i will let my attorney know this. So i am letting the Alien play around in her little universe and when she crashes i will either be there to help her or not, dont know what the future holds for anyone.....

[dh4320]

Bump

[dh4320]

Talked with my buddy at the car dealership today, I told the W i am not going to pay for her SUV payment anymore and she needs to go get a more affordable car now, i asked him how her mood was, he said she seemed ok desparate to get something affordable and stated to him " my life is falling apart" well i guess it is really but dammit she chose this and she is going to deal with it. I think this will make her even more angry at me but i dont have a choice anymore, she made her own bed now sleep in it. I am still dark no contact at all she is the same way very stubborn and will db me unknowingly

[dh4320]

bump

[wawpioneer]

dh4320

My wife was pressing for a different vehicle too that she could afford on her own. I guess they think alike. I agree that these are all their choices and they could just as easily choose not to do it as well. The WAW chooses their own destiny even if it is destructive.

[dh4320]

You are right wawpioneer,

The W still dark, which is fine maybe she is thinking about the mess she hs created or she is so angry at me she cant see straight its probably both actually. Her mood swings were bad b4 the bomb so they are continueing im sure. I found out a friend of hers visited her about 1 1/2 weeks ago while she was visiting the kids, heard that she was trying to talk some sense into the W but W was still insisting she is going on with her decision. well a lot has happened in the last week and a half, so i have to stick to the DBing and be patient, are there any stories out there similar to mine that are older that i could look at the threads and see how it went, not trying to speculate just guidance.....

[dh4320]

I guess you don’t know what day it is but you went by there 2 days ago and I have already spoken with Zach. I am not willing to trade in the Excursion and take a 12K hit that would be stupid. Here are 2 options for you give the excursion back to me I will keep paying on it and put it up for sale privately and give you a down payment for the sebring also Zach said he can get you into a nitro for the same price if you don’t like the sebring. You might want to price insurance for the 2 vehicles as well. Let me know... How is the job hunting going, if you get any bills for the house will you give them to cindy so I can make sure nothing gets shut off at the house. I am getting a tree today for the kids and going to attempt to decorate. Evie was up every 2 hours last night with bad gas I told cindy not to feed her corn that happened last week when I gave her corn so if you go to see the kids will you remind her. Xander is doing well with his please, and thank you's also getting very good with his potty training so can you encourage this when you visit with him.


THis was my response to her last email about getting into a more affordable vehicle. what do you guys think????