I would say listen to what he has to say tonight. Are YOU done? I would say definitely do NOT do anything or say anything to *help* him make his decision. He needs to do that on his own and, who knows, maybe a separation is what you guys need. I've seen a lot of sitch's where just that was the best thing to happen. You both may realize one way or the other what's best for both of you.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10