It *is* all about the confidence, and doing some work on yourself -- be it physical, spiritual, or intellectual -- can amp that up considerably *if* you do it from *exactly* that position and not be expecting validation from your mate. Even if you were already "street-f*ckable", there's nothing like knowing you've *earned* your self-confidence back as opposed to chanting "I'm so special" self-esteem mantras in the face of the perceived evidence (negative or non-existent feedback from your mate).
Okay, I agree and disagree and here's why. It goes back to what I was saying about having only so much life energy and being willing to invest only so much in your marital relationship. If you start investing more in "yourself" as opposed to "your relationship", you will make yourself more "street-f*ckable" because it's as though you have stopped throwing money at a stock that hasn't paid dividends in some time and you are building up some ready cash supplies. For instance, if I spent an hour at the gym and bought myself a cute t-shirt instead of cooking my 2bx a special dinner and buying him a little present, I invested life energy in a way that made me more "street-f*ckable". Of course, I could walk into a biker bar carrying a pie and try to trade it for some c*ck but I would almost certainly generate confusion rather than desire.
It seems to me that StormChaser is probably already quite "streetf*ckable" and not lacking in confidence. He just needs to understand that sexual economics are very sensitive to merchandising and slapping an ugly red discount sticker on yourself won't help matters. For instance, if he wouldn't have to get a woman drunk in order to get laid in the Schnarchian bar he shouldn't "pay" that price for p*ssy in his marriage either. In fact, I would recommend "acting" like your LD spouse is some stranger in a bar when you are thinking about getting laid. If I went into a bar and some strange dude gave off the vibe my 2bx gave off when I was thinking about getting laid, I wouldn't have dreamed of approaching him. Every one of my feminine "seek someone reasonably 'safe' with whom to have sex" alarms would have sounded. I got sexually hurt in my marriage because I turned off those alarms when I said "I do."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
