As I am thinking about you both also! I've been working extra hours, because of a staff shortage... which will also bring a brighter Christmas around here!
I've nothing else to update, but hope to find you both healthy and happy!
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Well, it's been a while since I've posted on my own thread.... where to start? Okay, since my last post, the court decided that I must have been abusing my Son, therefore, he was whisked from me that day, from the court house, where the next time I'd see him would be in December, for 2 nights during Christmas break. Oh, he begged his Dad to stay for another night, but Dick said "NO, I'm picking you up today!" During my S's visit, he sat on the sofa twice and said out loud for my D and I to hear... "I feel so good, it just feels so good to be here." He was able to visit with two of his friends, who he told both of them he thought he had made a mistake going with his father, and he misses being home. He didn't say this to me or D, but I know by how relaxed he was, that he missed being home... as I bet Dick also sensed this, and thought he'd control him and the situation by again, whisking him away to soon.
January, S was making more contact, by February, I received a text message while I was at work saying "Is it too late to come home?" I started to cry as I was reading his message. I responded "No, it's never too late for you to come home." He called me immediately, started to tell me what was going on there, about his father was telling how he was worthless, only moved in with him to cause him pain, how he was responsible for all the housework and yardwork, how impossible it was for him to live up to his father's standards, which includes a 4.0 in school. Then he dropped his little bomb, explaining he also earned himself a speeding ticket, and now his father is going crazy. We were scheduled to continue the original hearing in February, so I told my S to hold on, and we will do this legally... and then Dick has the hearing continued until April!
In April, Dick came in by himself, didn't bring S, THEN, announced to the court S was on probation AND the only reason he wanted to come home was to protect his younger Sister from ME! Well, again, it's all projection on his part.... proving once again he is unwilling to forgive himself for what he has done, needing to blame someone for what is going on, and only proving that he is unwilling to forgive because he doesn't want or can't let go of his past.
During March his wife, under orders from Dick, abandoned her two sons, left one with his Father, stating she could no longer handle him, and the other at her house, with the people who were purchasing it from her. Then, taking her two daughters to move to California, remember, she has strict orders from the court which say she is NOT allowed to take any of her children out of state to live, especially to California. Well, there was quite a hellaballo about this situation, it ended when the Judge from her case called her personally, stating the girls will be put on a plane and arrive in Wichita by friday, which was only two days from the emergency hearing the Dads had about the situation.
They sent the girls home, however, Dick had them sent to Kansas City Airport, and the only information he'd give to the Dads was the flight number.... nothing else! A real charmer, isn't he? Well, needless to say, Jane lost custody of all of the children, even gained supervised visitation! Their battle continues on, just like mine! Just wish someone would see what is going on here, but it's hard to get two distant county courts to speak to each other.
As for my battle, it will continue on June 30th, with an all day hearing.... Oh Joy! S will arrive here on June 14, and will have two fun filled weeks of visitinig the counselor, (yes, court orders, and why does it rest on my shoulders to bring him to a counselor, and not Dick, he has plenty of time between now and then, and besides, there was a request from way back in October that Dick bring S to a counselor to help him adjust to the move to Cali., which of course, Dick ignored! Big surprise, huh???? NOT!)
Aside from being told how to spend my two weeks with my son, I pray that the truth will come out, and I won't have to send my Son back to Cali, AND I'm able to keep D here with me.
That's about it in a nutshell... I have my ups and downs, especially when I consider the fact my divorce has be final since August 2004, and here it is May 2008, and I'm still not done with the court processes. Dick emotionally left in 2001/2002, confirmed his affair October 2002... by catching together in bed, which he still denies doing anything with her until the divorce was final in 2004... how's that for denial???
Dick has been so ugly, has not lived up to any of the terms of the divorce decree, pushed us into homelessness, continued to have the child support decreased every year since the beginning, he's not even paying the full amount ordered now... just now and then, when he feels like it, and the very last little bomb he tossed was he claimed both children on his taxes, which one, kicked my tax return back, but also, because I was stupid and filed an extention to keep me from having IRS problems, and because I didn't know what the right thing for me to do was, he received MY portion of the stimulous package.... you see, if you have primary custody of your children.... and it's not predetermined in your divorce papers, it is a Federal law that the primary custodian receive the deduction! Oh, the things I've learned, albeit, a little too late.... I wish I had a dime for everything I know now, that I didn't know before.... I'd be rich!
Well, anyway, that's my update, as sad as it sounds. I haven't made any progress where my compete freedom is concerned, but I continue to pray that I will someday.
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
