It *is* all about the confidence, and doing some work on yourself -- be it physical, spiritual, or intellectual -- can amp that up considerably *if* you do it from *exactly* that position and not be expecting validation from your mate. Even if you were already "street-f*ckable", there's nothing like knowing you've *earned* your self-confidence back as opposed to chanting "I'm so special" self-esteem mantras in the face of the perceived evidence (negative or non-existent feedback from your mate).
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
